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February 4th, 2010 01:28 am #1
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Hello
Hi. Uh, not sure what else to say about myself. Gayer than a parade float, I guess. In a misguided attempt to follow my religion (ie, try to love god) and make my family happy (ie, be accepted by them) I "stopped being gay" (in their eyes) and had what would be called an arranged marriage for about 8 yrs. It was about as much fun as marriage to a total stranger from an ultra patriarchal society & religion sounds like it would be. I would say for me the "what god says" thing was stronger than what my family wanted, although that was important too. But mostly it was striving to be pious that led me to make stupid decisions.
Anyway, about two and a half years ago I decided to start dealing with my super bad choices instead of suffering from them and so I began the process of working myself free from the culture, religion, marriage and everything else. I live in Pennsylvania. I told my friend, I am 35 and spent too many years trying to please my family, the religion, the god, the society ... now I must pursue my own happiness even if it pisses them (the family) off. I don't think they can call me selfish after the things that I gave up. I try not to care what people think of me, but after many years of conditioning in that mentality it's not easy.
My username is from a Tegan & Sara song.
That's all for now (I'd say it's probably enough!)Last edited by TerribleStorm; February 4th, 2010 at 01:34 am. Reason: fixed a sentence.
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February 4th, 2010 03:30 am #2
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February 4th, 2010 04:16 am #3
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Welcome to Curve, TerribleStorm! You'll find the support you need here.
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February 4th, 2010 04:29 am #4
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Welcome TS
Heart in Hand, facing forward, be yourself.
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February 4th, 2010 04:59 am #5
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Welcome TS!! WOW I am so happy for you and way to go!!! I am proud of you taking charge of your own life and own happiness,, you have to be the one happy with yourself and your life, you cannot be happy living for others, so Congrats on your awakening and you will find a lot of support here!!!
Live the life you have dreamed
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February 4th, 2010 05:33 am #6
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Hello there TerribleStorm, welcome to Curve
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February 4th, 2010 10:23 pm #7
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Thanks all for the welcome.
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February 5th, 2010 09:25 am #8
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welcome to curve terrible storm. Glad you are here and hope you find it a supportive community. I can relate to the God, family, society thing. I was southern baptist for 16 years and in my second year of recovery from alcohol, I realized I couldn't repress myself anymore and still be true to myself. so it's a long haul but you'll be fine.
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February 5th, 2010 02:46 pm #9
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hiya TS, glad to meet you! =)
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February 5th, 2010 08:53 pm #10
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greetings, TS
I like how the name TerribleStorm has the same initials as Tegan & Sara.
anywho, welcome jump in anywhere you like!
"Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it."
– Benjamin Franklin
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February 5th, 2010 10:46 pm #11
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I didn't even think about that... that's awesome.
Originally Posted by ReEsA722
greetings, TS
I like how the name TerribleStorm has the same initials as Tegan & Sara.
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